You’ve got to know when to fold ’em

Y’all know that commercial with the punchline about playing cards with Kenny Rogers and he’s singing “The Gambler”? I was thinking about that today when I was pondering the blog and its future: you’ve just got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em, know when to walk away, know when to run…

“I just don’t have anything to say,” I confessed to my husband the other day. We were discussing the blog, this one, and whether or not I should just shut ‘er down, fold ’em, walk away as it were. It’s really not *that* momentous of a decision, I realize, except for the fact that the renewal payment on my domain will come due before too long so, yeah, there is something of a financial obligation at stake, albeit a small one.

“All writer’s have writer’s block,” he said and I suppose he’s right though I have my doubts if what I do here could rightly constitute writing per se. But blogger’s block? I got that in spades. What has it been, two months of silence? More? Not even a humble status report to maintain some semblance of life?

I listened to a podcast about blogging thinking maybe I’d rediscover some inspiration and inclination toward writing or blogging or whatever you want to call this. It was encouraging and informational and no doubt a great help for someone who already wants to blog. But where’s the podcast for the uncertain blogger, she who can’t find anything to say nor the desire to say it? Is there a litmus test, a flow chart, a quiz to determine definitively, finally, once and for all, yes, go forth and blog, or, no, sister, it’s time to fold ’em?

In the podcast the blogger being interviewed confessed to never, not once, feeling the sort of block I am muddling through. This did not encourage. Of course, in my defense, I’ve been at it a lot longer so maybe I’m just old. In blog years I mean.

In real life it’s been a strange couple of months, months marked by transition and some degree of sadness and, well, the sort of nebulous strangeness that tends toward private introspection over the kind of public confessional that constitutes blogging, at least the kind of blogging engaged by this blogger. So maybe it is a stage of life deal.

But life is good too. I don’t mean to sound all melodramatic and melancholy (though admittedly sometimes I can’t help it!). We’re right in the middle of some of our favorite times of the year and of life, enjoying football games and celebrating September birthdays and anticipating all things autumnal. I’m back to teaching Bible study after our summer hiatus and I love it more than ever. The kids are great, church is awesome, and, like I said, life is good. There is much to enjoy, much to anticipate, much to be grateful for.

So will I write more? Will I write at all? Should I cut my losses and close shop? I am undecided. Do I love blogging enough to push through writer’s / blogger’s block? Does it matter? I have no ambition beyond just the blog so, really, why fret so over what is really, in the end, a hobby? Will I know when, if, to fold ’em? I guess we shall see!

Can any of my blogger friends relate? How do you rediscover the joy of writing and of blogging?


Author: Lisa Spence

Wife, mother, Bible teacher, bibliophile, occasional blogger

12 thoughts on “You’ve got to know when to fold ’em”

  1. I totally relate and if you go and take a quick peek at Hiraeth you will find that, for me, it’s obvious. I haven’t had the desire to blog since (it feels like) forever.

    I have moved on and, like you, I am enjoying life! I don’t ‘get’ Twitter and to be honest, I’m on Facebook for fleeting smiles from random cat and dog videos, inspiration from other, more talented calligraphers, and to see pictures of my grandkids that pop up in my feed.

    Want my opinion? Sorry, I don’t really have one! Grin. I just wanted to let you know I understand.

  2. Hi Lisa, I’ve been following you for a while now . . . and I do believe you have something to say. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability and thank you for verbalizing your blogging dilemma. I have been blogging daily since 2010 ( and I understand what you’re saying. I have definitely had days when I’ve thought, “I have absolutely nothing to say” but readers have encouraged me to push through and I’m always glad that I chose that route. If God is shutting your blog down, so be it . . . but if it’s your emotions that make you question, I’d encourage you to take a break ( I take week- long holidays away from the blog, I don’t feel guilty about it and I always come back feeling refreshed) rest, enjoy the distance from your blog for a while and see what happens.

    Certainly, there’s more to life than blogging . . . but I wanted you to know that I do enjoy the “confessions and conundrums of an ordinary wife and mom!” 🙂 Diane

  3. I love reading your blog for many reasons, mostly because I love your integrity and hearing your heart. I don’t have an answer as to whether or not you should continue or “fold ’em” since that is a decision that you have to make. I do know that I would miss reading. I must say that I find this post interesting considering the number of times I’ve contemplated to blog or not to blog. Sometimes I just have to get the words out of me and “on paper.” I currently do put them literally on paper, but I’ve wondered if I should ever put them “out there on virtual paper, for others to read.” The thought both excites me and terrifies me. I too could see myself writing just such a blog post as yours today if I had been at it some time. Anyway, I am rambling and not offering any sort of answer to your question except to say that I would miss reading your posts, but unlike many of your readers, I have the opportunity to see and hear from you regularly, so I wouldn’t have to miss you. 🙂

  4. Friend, I would certainly miss your blogging! 🙂

    I’ve been so inconsistent in my own blogging. I had great hopes of sharing things I’m learning, but life interrupted. Not with bad stuff – with really good stuff! Still, it was in interruption all the same. So I can relate to your conundrum.

    We really have put too much pressure on ourselves to have the perfect blog, haven’t we?

  5. Where would I get my next reads from??? I only wished I could read as fast as you. I appreciate your blog, thoughts, suggestions, etc…I’d miss you here in Oklahoma.

  6. But, but, but..I just started following you not long ago and it has been good. I have no authority to tell you to blog or not blog but consider that some of us prefer quality not quantity. And don’t get me started on the need for solid women…I just pleaded in a blog about that.

    I don’t have any tips for getting over blog block. I just go with it and let time pass until the words come. Ultimately, you have to decide but I don’t think there is anything wrong with times of silence. In fact, I think there can be much wisdom cultivated.

  7. I know exactly how you feel. I used to blog… I even had a book reviewing blog. But it got to the point where my life needed me to focus more on it and less on the internet. It didn’t help that it seemed my blog didn’t draw any readers (or few). I finally called it quits about 2.5 years ago. Sometimes it’s good to take a break.

    I have enjoyed your posts. I subscribe to them via email.

  8. Lisa, I would certainly miss your voice if you stopped blogging, but understand your struggle. To everything there is a season. Trust the Lord will speak to your heart and either renew your love of blogging, or let you know that it’s ok to put it down for a season.

  9. Hope you will keep us posted on what you are reading. I have been introduced to some wonderful books through your lists. In fact, when I need a new book to read or listen during my commute to work, I check your list out.
    Otherwise, we each go through seasons and this may be one where you focus more on the women in your Bible Study, your family and their needs and your local church and community. I know I speak for many others, that we gleaned wisdom and truth from God’s Word from you. Will miss you.

  10. I totally relate. I find it hard to push through the writer’s block. And, as you have expressed, I too miss the old days of blogging. But, I really hope that you will continue to share at times. I would miss it if your voice disappeared from blogdom. Blessings and prayers as you make decisions of what is best for you right now.

  11. I totally relate…as you can see by how much after the date this was posted that my comment is appearing. Blogging has been hard for awhile now, yet I am reluctant to totally give it up. I guess I need to search my heart as to why that is. Blogging has changed so much and I kind of miss the old blogging days where connecting was forefront and not using blogging as a business. But if it helps I’ve always loved your writing and though I haven’t always commented in the last long while I always get something out of your posts. But life is more important. At the end of our days I doubt if any one of us is going to say “darn I wished I’d have blogged more” but we might regret not having spent that time doing life with our family and friends.

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