A year or so ago a fellow blogger and I were engaged in an email exchange of mutual admiration and encouragement and in the course of our conversation she observed that there were so few bloggers in our stage of life, that stage being parenting tween-agers, teenagers, and soon-to-be college students. We pledged to do our best to stay in the fray, to maintain our unique perspective, but, well, yeah, you can see how that’s worked out for me. What can I say, life has been busy and only getting busier and blogging seems to come in fits and spurts. It is funny to me to reflect back on my earlier, more prolific years as a blogger, when the words and posts would strain for expression. So many ideas! So many posts anxious for publication! And, now… little and sometimes nothing.
A few weeks ago some friends and fellow Tweet-ers and I “discussed” (140 characters at time) this seeming void of bloggers with older children. They too had noticed the trend and we wondered amongst ourselves the possible reasons and ramifications. Truly, blogging about a teenager’s rebellion is very different than writing about a two year old’s and as it should be. Some things ought not be blogged so maybe we feel limited by the necessity for silence about much of our current life experience. Blogging as a medium has changed so perhaps the life cycle of our blog is reaching its end. Some of us in this stage have returned to work now that our kids are older. A lot of us are busy, busy. One of my friends expressed curiosity over whether the lack of audience (or the perceived lack thereof) keeps us from blogging which in turn would limit our audience.
We reached no definite conclusions but it was an interesting discussion.
So, for my part, I’ve been thinking about life as I know it here in the middle years and how it corresponds to blogging, or not. I cannot speak for any other blogger but this one and as such here are a couple of reasons I think may account for my sometime sluggishness in blogging…
1. As I said before, I’m busy. Right now, today, this month, next month, these past couple of years, especially so. Because my children are older, I have discovered the freedom to commit to volunteering at the Crisis Pregnancy Center on Wednesdays and to lead Bible study on Thursday mornings this past spring–both are time commitments I didn’t have when I first began blogging. And I still have laundry as well as all other duties and privileges of stay at home motherhood. Not only that but I think I’ve mentioned my son is heading off to college? These are exciting times, no doubt about it. Happy times. Much to savor and much to enjoy. Also much (much!) to do.
2. I’ve heard it said that with age comes wisdom. Maybe. I think a more apt accompaniment to age is humility. I remember my former passion and zeal with some degree of wistfulness. Now I am more…unsure, perhaps? Not about the things that matter, issues of faith and doctrine, no, in those areas I am as firm in my conviction as ever. Rather I find I am less apt to opine on secondary and lesser issues. I once had all sorts of pat answers and firm convictions (and quick condemnation) but now I see the wisdom of keeping my mouth shut. Instead of all the answers, I have but one answer: grace. The older my kids get the more I see this parenting gig was so much less about me and whatever right I thought I had done or didn’t do and more about the grace of a sovereign, sufficient Lord who delights to show me the end of myself so that I might gain the reward of all rewards: Himself.
What about you? Any other bloggers out there struggling with blogging through the middle years? Do you agree with my observations here? How can we encourage one another through this stage of life?