Y’all know I have holiday issues, mainly being that I just don’t like them. Were I to rank my dislike of specific holidays Valentine’s would probably come in as my least favorite. Don’t get me wrong: I have people in my life I love very much and I like telling them so. I just don’t like feeling as if my love is somehow better expressed on a specific day.
I once made the statement here on the blog that I didn’t need a $5 card to know my husband loves me and it’s true. My husband demonstrates his love for me day in and day out in the way he serves me and works hard to provide for me and makes me laugh and supports me and stands by me despite seeing the very worst of me. Love shows itself true and he truly loves me. Far more than I deserve and I am so grateful. He is a good man, a godly man, a man who loves the Lord Jesus and for some reason loves me too. I love him, more than ever, and certain more than a mere card or gift can express.
Lest you think us total scrooges when it comes to love, we didn’t totally ignore the holiday. Saturday night my husband took me to see a local theater’s stage adaptation of Pride and Prejudice and if that doesn’t speak of true love then I don’t know what does.
Speaking of that $5 card, my friend read that blog post, thought it hilarious, and since she was my son’s Sunday school teacher at the time and the class was making cards for their moms, she had him write on my card something like “it’s not a $5 card but I love you anyway.” She’s such a jokester, my friend. We laughed.
I have to say that I am so glad my kids are out of the Valentine party / card-giving stage. Particularly after seeing all of the pictures of beautiful Pinterest-inspired cards my Facebook friends have been posting. I cannot believe the creativity and the industry that goes into class Valentine cards! I’m afraid the box of $1.99 Buzz Lightyear cards we used to give out would no longer pass muster and I would have to deal with the corresponding mom guilt.
I did find myself pacing the candy aisle at Kmart yesterday looking for an appropriate gift for my son to give his “friend.” They’ve only been out together a couple of times so I was left wondering if the $10 box of candy is too ostentatious and indicative of too much in terms of relationship but then again would the $5 box look too cheap? What is the ratio between length of relationship and amount of Valentine candy anyway? Anyone, anyone? Unfortunately, there is no apparent protocol for these things and he of course has no idea. I settled for a small stuffed animal and a canister of chocolates. He was pleased and we hope she will be as well.
I’m thinking I will attempt a pound cake today. I have some strawberries and cool whip, which with the pound cake all seems rather celebratory and Valentine-ish. We’ll be at my son’s soccer match tonight so it will be an ordinary evening for us which is, really, my favorite kind. We love each other on the holidays, yes, but of course. Real love happens on the ordinary days too, each ordinary day making up ordinary years, a life of love that lasts.