Why I Don’t Blog

I’ve thinking about this post by Trevin Wax on whether or not blogging is essentially self promotion. It’s an interesting read and if you haven’t already I hope you’ll click over and read it, particularly if you are a blogger.

I like what he says about service and stewardship and his confession that blogging is sometimes hard work (What? Him too? Why does that offer such relief?). As he states his motivation for blogging, I am stirred by a desire to blog more regularly:

I blog because there are people who (for whatever reason) find this blog worthy of their time and attention. I want to serve those readers faithfully, and I want to properly steward the little bit of influence God has given me.

My readership is small by anyone’s standards but I don’t ever forget you are out there and when my blogging is sporadic at best I will admit a sense of responsibility to those of you who do visit and read, however many or few of you there are. Sometimes that sense of responsibility morphs into full blown guilt which seems to me to be pretty silly. I mean, of all things to feel guilty over, not blogging is a little ridiculous. But, hey, often, too often, I wear guilt as a second skin. I think our enemy effectively uses guilt in the lives of most women (this woman in particular) to keep us cowed down and hating ourselves. But, I digress.

So Trevin’s post is spot on and quite inspiring. But the truth of the matter is I don’t blog as often as I’d like or my sense of service and stewardship (rightly or wrongly) dictates. It isn’t because I somehow despise or take for granted the trust of my readers. On the contrary! Rather, when I don’t blog it’s because my real life precludes my virtual one. I’m not blogging because I’m doing laundry and cheering at basketball games. I’m running errands and I’m cramming for Bible study. I’m cooking supper and chatting on the phone with friends. I’m mopping the floor (okay, only on occasion) and walking the puppy (or, alternatively, standing at the back door yelling for her to come in).

In other words, I’m living my real life and sometimes I can’t do it all.

This may seem an obvious truth. And, well, yeah, it is. But in some strange way remembering my inability to be and do it all is freeing. Sure I want to write. Sure being a frustrated blogger is, well, frustrating. But I’m learning that the good stewardship of my time means the service to my home and family, church and friends, takes precedence and that’s okay. This is the call of God on my life: to bring glory to Him as I serve Him in the seemingly small and ordinary tasks that comprise my day to day life. Sometimes that means blogging. More of time here lately it means not. When I remember it is the Lord Jesus Christ I serve as I fold clothes or sit in car line, my frustration at not finding time to blog (or whatever other task I wish I were about) gives way to joy. Blogging or not blogging is a side issue to my earnest desire to be a woman consumed with one thing: Jesus Christ.

So, when the occasional post shows up in your reader or you click over and to your surprise there is a new post (or two, if we can be optimistic), you can know it is my honor and privilege to serve you, the reader, in grateful stewardship of this small corner of the internet that the Lord has granted me. If not, well, then it means I am seeking to joyfully live my life in all its ordinary-ness and busy-ness, giving thanks to God the Father for this, my real life. It’s my prayer that you too may be found faithful in all things, real and virtual, being a good steward of the measure of influence granted to you by the Lord. Let us exalt Him in all things, sisters; He alone is worthy!

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Author: Lisa Spence

Wife, mother, Bible teacher, bibliophile, occasional blogger

19 thoughts on “Why I Don’t Blog”

  1. I love your blog! And I am so thankful to know you through it. I feel the same way! Blogging is not my priority. If I can bless someone through it, then praise the Lord. But, if I can't find time to write a post, then I pray that I am using that time to bless my family (both in the immediate sense of my husband and my daughter, and those in my church) instead. Some women can do it all…I'm not one of them. πŸ™‚

  2. Yes. Nodding. You've stated what I think, much better than I could have written it. I feel guilty about feeling guilty for not blogging. Go figure. I'm thankful for the times when you do post, but by no means is that a heaping of guilt. Just a thank you.

  3. I have come to understand my blog(s) as an extension of myself and for the most part I am totally ok with that. Hopefully I am not advertising how great I am but how wonderful Jesus is as you lay out here. But also hopefully I am being honest and influencing people in positive ways. The world of blogging is very real, made up of real people with real struggles and real desires and I would say as someone who follows your blog from afar that you serve people well in that regard.Its probably just a semantics issue, but I don't think of my interactions in the blogging world and facebook (which is quickly becoming everyone's personal blog) as "not real." I hope to serve people faithfully in both my interpersonal exchanges and my online posts/exchanges. The interpersonal is perhaps more powerful and nearly always more pressing but that does not make the online any less real. The issue I have had to deal with lately is making sure this arena isn't pulling me away from more personal and more important endeavors. Anyway, I think I am making the same point that you are in a much less direct way πŸ˜‰ I am not sure how well I do at balancing these two "worlds" but it would seem that Facebook is here to stay as is the blogging world and as it becomes more and more a part of most people's lives, I get excited about more people you trying to navigate those waters faithfully and point people to Christ!All that said, I was a little bummed to be excluded in your last line πŸ˜‰

  4. @Drew: Perhaps I didn't choose my words carefully enough. By no means do I consider my online friendships to be fake or pretend. Quite the opposite, really. I am so grateful for the friendships the Lord has granted me through blogging and there are many women that I consider my true friends who I have never seen face to face nor communicated with apart from email and blog comments. The Lord has used these wise and witty women to affect my life in profound ways! By no means do I intend to minimize these friendships by characterizing them as not real. They are indeed real, as you have said.In delineating between the real and the "other" in the case of this post, I am reminding myself that when the obligations of caring for my family or serving my church seem to conflict with the time spent crafting a blog post, I ought to prioritize the here and the now. Like I said, this truth brings me freedom in terms of the obligation I sometimes feel in blogging! Yes, blogging and Facebook and other social media are all here to stay yet this particular stage of life is not. I want to blog, I will blog, and I want my blog to encourage others in the wholehearted pursuit of Christ as the greatest Treasure but I must be faithful to do that as a wife, mom, Bible teacher, housekeeper, friend first.Yes, I forget the occasional man ventures this way! Sorry! Know you are welcome here! πŸ™‚

  5. As the comments above indicate, your words ring true for many of us occasional bloggers. Thanks for taking the time to write when you can, and thanks for being faithful to the real life and responsibilities God has for you outside of this virtual world!

  6. Oooh, good stuff! I've been thinking the same things lately. Whenever I get an email about how much someone enjoys my blog, I almost feel sheepish for giving such lame attention to it. It really is a ministry outreach. Thanks for sharing life.

  7. I read your blog all the time — and I particularly like your status updates.But I know what you mean about not being able to do it all. I've decided that one post (a book review) per week is enough for me, with the occasional extra. I don't spend enough face time with people, and for me it's important not to use blogging as a way to escape from human contact, even though human contact can be difficult for me at times.

  8. That's an awesome perspective and I appreciate it very much.And real life sometimes needs to get in the way of blogging. But when you are around, I do find you very worth my time! Yes, indeed.

  9. As always, we're of the same mind. I've been contemplating why I blog and Facebook a lot lately. Still trying to reconcile blogging's place in my life.It's funny…I rarely get more than a couple of comments on a post, yet I feel guilty for not posting. I think I want to believe I have a ministry here on the web, regardless of whether or not I actually do. In the end, I enjoy writing and at least I'm keeping a log of what God's doing in our lives.I'm always happy to see a post from you pop into my reader!

  10. I knew what you meant (and it was a semantics thing!) I think and I was very confusingly empathizing with you–soon I will have a daughter to take care of and even now I have multiple things that are competing for my time. Certainly our families and churches are more important places for us to channel our energy. I do hope that these two worlds are intertwined–in other words that folks I personally know here in AL are blessed/encouraged/provoked by what I am doing online (I know my blogging is a regular source of interesting conversation between me and Jen at least!). Anyway, I totally get what you are saying about prioritizing your family and ministry at church because those are more important and I know I am about to feel that more profoundly in a few short months!Anyway–I think I sometimes am really unclear in my comments on blogs–that comment was meant to be a compliment because I think your blog serves a lot of people well and its certainly worth doing even if it necessarily must be overshadowed by more pressing concerns.

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