From Counsel from the Cross: Connecting Broken People to the Love of Christ by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Dennis Johnson,
We are far more sinful and flawed than we know. It should humble us to the dust to realize that the only way for us to become holy was for the beloved Son to suffer like this and to die in our place. We must abandon our futile pursuit of good self-esteem and see ourselves for what we are: the cause of the greatest suffering ever known, the suffering of the Lamb of God. We will never be truly free from self-condemnation and the desire for approval until we grasp this fact. We were so sinful we had to die. Personal reformation won’t help. We need death.